{"id":1090,"date":"2024-03-26T01:33:56","date_gmt":"2024-03-26T01:33:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/arealhumanbeing.co\/?p=1090"},"modified":"2024-03-27T04:16:19","modified_gmt":"2024-03-27T04:16:19","slug":"deciding-on-a-focus-for-the-blog-you-can-feel-happy-again","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arealhumanbeing.co\/deciding-on-a-focus-for-the-blog-you-can-feel-happy-again\/","title":{"rendered":"Deciding On a Focus for the Blog: You Can Feel Happy Again"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1090\" class=\"elementor elementor-1090\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8409b19 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"8409b19\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b368cee elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b368cee\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.21.0 - 18-04-2024 *\/\n.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-stacked .elementor-drop-cap{background-color:#69727d;color:#fff}.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-framed .elementor-drop-cap{color:#69727d;border:3px solid;background-color:transparent}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap{margin-top:8px}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap-letter{width:1em;height:1em}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap{float:left;text-align:center;line-height:1;font-size:50px}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap-letter{display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I have been trying to refine this blog for a little while now. My post topics have been a little all over the place. I\u2019ve written about <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/arealhumanbeing.co\/how-i-overcame-anxiety-and-learned-to-engage-in-life\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">mental health<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/arealhumanbeing.co\/how-to-connect-with-people-and-why-you-should\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">connection<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/arealhumanbeing.co\/can-you-try-to-make-money-while-still-being-authentic\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">making money<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and even my favorite topic: <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/arealhumanbeing.co\/how-korea-and-the-victorian-era-hold-the-key-to-a-more-fulfilled-life\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Korea<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I have hesitated picking one topic because I don\u2019t want to put too many rules on myself as I reignite my love for writing. As I discussed in an early post, writing was once a great passion that turned into a great source of stress for me, and I am trying to find that passion once again. So I didn\u2019t want to do anything that might add stress into the equation and I was afraid that if I tried to follow the rules of modern-day blogging too closely (i.e. picking a high search volume and low competition niche to write about) I would start to get stressed again and eventually I\u2019d give up writing.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So I\u2019ve been hesitant.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But I do think it\u2019s probably a good idea to have some focus on the blog so that my readers know what to expect from me and don\u2019t feel like they signed up for one thing and got another.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So with all that being said, I think I\u2019ve decided on a focus for the blog, at least for now. I want to talk about mental health, and particularly on improving mental health. I have lots of experience with this, as I have wrestled with anxiety and depression for much of my life and have made enormous strides in improving my own mental health.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I would like to share that stuff with you all.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But I don\u2019t want this to be like one of those \u201cI know all the secrets that you don\u2019t know and I can fix your entire life and make everything perfect because I am brilliant and perfect\u201d kinds of blogs. I don\u2019t want to position myself above anyone or pretend like I have every single answer or that I am now perfect and have no problems with mental health. I am still working on it. I am still flawed. I still have my bad days.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">BUT\u2026<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I have improved SO MUCH over the years and I am a completely different person than I once was. I feel SO MUCH lighter and less stressed and anxious than I once did. I have FAR fewer deeply depressed days than I once did.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I\u2019m not perfect, but I am better. Much, much better.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3a2b189 elementor-cta--skin-classic elementor-animated-content elementor-bg-transform elementor-bg-transform-zoom-in elementor-widget elementor-widget-global elementor-global-1091 elementor-widget-call-to-action\" data-id=\"3a2b189\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"call-to-action.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<link rel=\"stylesheet\" href=\"https:\/\/arealhumanbeing.co\/wp-content\/plugins\/elementor-pro\/assets\/css\/widget-call-to-action.min.css\">\t\t<div class=\"elementor-cta\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-cta__content\">\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-cta__title elementor-cta__content-item elementor-content-item\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\tGet a FREE Copy of My E-Book You Are Enough\t\t\t\t\t<\/h2>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-cta__button-wrapper elementor-cta__content-item elementor-content-item \">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-cta__button elementor-button elementor-size-\" href=\"#elementor-action%3Aaction%3Dpopup%3Aopen%26settings%3DeyJpZCI6Ijg0OCIsInRvZ2dsZSI6ZmFsc2V9\" target=\"_blank\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\tClick Here\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d9e8cbc elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d9e8cbc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I can function relatively normally. I can engage in life in a relatively normal way. I am not an extrovert by any means, I\u2019m still shy and quiet in many situations, but I have gained a perspective that allows me to see some of my flaws with compassion and patience and even allows me to push through some of those things that used to limit me.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Bottom line is that I just feel so much better about myself than I did for much of my life. I have a little bit more confidence and calmness. I don\u2019t panic like I used to. In fact, I rarely have a panic attack anymore. I still get some anxiety, but it\u2019s generally not too bad. And I\u2019m able to get through it when it comes.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And I am continually improving. I have learned a lot of things in my journey to improve my mental and emotional state that have been crucial to my progress and I want to share those things. And I want to share them in real time. Lately I have been working so much on myself and improving so much, but it has not been a linear improvement and I have had many setbacks and frustrating and discouraging days. But I have kept going, and I have worked through things like I was never able to before.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So that is the kind of stuff I will focus on for now on this blog.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p><h2>There Is Always Hope<\/h2><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I want to bring some light and some hope to those who suffer from the crushing and suffocating weight of depression and\/or anxiety. It\u2019s so heartbreaking to me that so many people are suffering so intensely and I want to help.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There is so much hope. Seriously. You have to know that you can get better. You can improve. You can get through this. And not just in a hold-on-for-dear-life kind of way where you barely survive each day. I mean that you <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">can<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> get better. You <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">can<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> be happy. You <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">can<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> feel good again. And not just in little spurts every now and then. In ever-increasing periods of time that will culminate in feeling good most of the time.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I know that is true. I am experiencing it now. The increasing part. I\u2019m on the journey, but the pattern has been set. I have experienced the improvement and I know that it will continue as I continue down this path.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So come with me! I\u2019ll share the things that have helped me improve and the things that haven\u2019t. I\u2019ll share with you how I have learned to develop resilience and how I have learned to bounce back quicker and not get derailed by setbacks.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I\u2019ll share how I have learned to relax more and not put so much pressure on myself. I\u2019m still not a high-energy person, but I\u2019m totally okay with that now. I don\u2019t try to make myself something I don\u2019t want to be or don\u2019t need to be.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I promise you that you will get better. You will feel the light of day break upon your dark night and guide you once again into the warmth of the sun to rest from your troubles and cares.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I\u2019m excited about this prospect and I hope you will feel encouraged. I hope you will feel that you have an advocate and a friend. That you will feel like you belong here and that there is someone who genuinely cares about you and wants to connect with you and offer support.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Please feel free to reach out in the comments and engage with me and the other members of this community. Let\u2019s support each other and grow together!<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember you are always worth loving.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I have been trying to refine this blog for a little while now. My post topics have been a little all over the place. I\u2019ve written about mental health, connection, making money, and even my favorite topic: Korea. 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